Move on lad, Past is not going to change

I see people overwhelming in bad situations and need a pathway to escape from sufferings. Life is all about failures. No doubt people celebrate and enjoy success but true lessons are learnt from failures. Be it a situation when a dear one dies, or a fail attempt in an exam or when you break up a relationship. These are all situations that put us on backfoot and lead to pain and depression. But each moment has to offer something; you just need to open yourself for the gift.

Moving on simply doesn’t mean to forget things but to realize the truth and continue to live with it instead. A handful of advices may help you recover from your situation are listed herein. Have a look.

1)      It takes time- Remember that Rome was not built in a day. Every activity in this world consumes time. For you to move on, give some time and see the change occur. Gradually, you’ll feel more accustomed to the situation and be more comfortable with the change. World is changing each second and so are you. Give it a break and experience the change yourself.

2)      Realize- Realization of truth is very much necessary. To imagine a perfect world is totally normal but we must not forget how the real world actually is. If a girl leaves you amidst your belongings, realize that she is gone and there is no coming back. Any attempt to do so would only be unjust to you. Realize the importance of your own life and the people whose happiness depend on you. Realize that life is one complete package of ups and downs and time shall change.

3)      Take care of yourself- Running after things that were never yours would only make your condition miserable. Focus on what you currently have, estimate your potential and give your shot to make future better. Suicidal thoughts are more often seen in youngsters, which is never an option. Simply care for yourself and things will fall into place, believe me they surely will. You, yourself need to stitch your wounds because nobody else would.

4)      Engage- Diverting your mind is the first step to get over in these sort of situations. Plan a trip with friends, go for a movie, an adventure camp, exercising at a gym, cleaning the room, reading a novel or a comic and many more activities tend to distract you from going back to the thing which is bothering you. As soon as you get a thought about the very same person who left you, try and think of something funny or start noticing things around you. A simple excercise is saying out loud or in the mind the following:
5 things you see around
4 things you can touch
3 sounds you can practically hear
 color of your upper and lower/ pant-shirt
1 what you presently can smell

5)      Distance- You may have to be a little harsh on yourself and start avoiding the one who left you, and you have to focus more on things at hand, people who matter. It surely will hurt at first and then settle as sand in water. Start with a determination that you won’t let yourself bend any further, instead be stiff as a stone. You also need to distance from any thought you get about any incidents from the past that may take you back to zero.

6)      One last time- At times of heartbroken situations, it may be, for many of us, not so easy to let go. Don’t worry, it is totally normal. Politely ask the person to have a conversation one last time, either personally or over the phone, as is comforting. Confront confidently for one last time. Let anything in you flow, everything. Things might change however the equation is imaginary, but be prepared for the worst, the real truth. If odds remain against you, go to step 1 and repeat.