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Sunday, 31 May 2015

Attracted to somebody? Know the psychology behind.

Do opposites really attract? Despite what you may have grown up hearing, studies may reflect the opposite—interestingly, especially when it comes to looks.

According to research reported in the July 2010 issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, we are attracted to people who resemble our parents or ourselves.

In one study, subjects were shown pictures of strangers which were preceded by a short glimpse of either their own opposite-sex parent or a stranger. Subjects exposed to a short glimpse of their parent before being exposed to the target picture were more likely to assign higher ratings of attractiveness to the person in the target picture. In a second study, a picture of the stranger was morphed with a picture of themselves or a picture of another stranger. When subjects were asked to rate the portrayed people for attractiveness, they usually picked the people who were an amalgamation of a stranger and themselves. 

As it turns out, then, we are much more likely to fall for someone who looks like us or our opposite-sex parent. This may indicate that our incest taboos are social constructs instituted to prevent people from following their instincts. However, there are other explanations of why we are attracted to people who look like us.

Researchers at the deCODE Genetics company in Reykjavik, reporting in a 2008 issue of Science, found that marriages between third or fourth cousins in Iceland tended to produce more children and grandchildren than those between completely unrelated individuals. The researchers suggest that marrying third and fourth cousins may be optimal for reproduction because this degree of genetic similarity may produce the best gene pool. Sibling and first-cousin couples, were they to mate, could have inbreeding problems, whereas couples genetically far-removed from each other could have genetic incompatibilities. Third- and fourth-cousin couples, though, tend to be genetically compatible while having no serious inbreeding problems.

At first glance, such findings seem to go against the so-called "Westermarck effect," which posits that people who grow up together are disposed not to fall in love with each other after they reach sexual maturity. But the Westermarck effect—based on a series of studies done by Finnish anthropologist Edvard Westermark—actually is consistent with the recent findings—living in close proximity is no doubt the decisive factor for desensitization in terms of sexual attraction, not the degree of the individuals' resemblance.

In fact, the Westermarck effect has been confirmed, in the Israeli kibbutz system of communal living, in which people who grow up together are typically not directly related to each other and do not look alike. And consider how traditional sim pua marriages, mostly dating from pre-modern Taiwan, also confirm Westermarck’s theory: Sim puameans “little daughter in-law." In the system, a female infant is given to a family to be reared as their own daughter. When she grows up, she is to marry a son in that family. But sim pua marriages have produced a low fertility rate, a high divorce rate, frequent adultery, and lack of sexual attraction. In some cases, the son or "daughter-in-law" has refused to marry their destined-for spouse.

So, the degree to which a couple resembles each other could be a defining factor in relationship satisfaction after all.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mysteries-love/201505/are-we-attracted-people-who-look-us?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Friday, 29 May 2015

Befitting Replies You Can Give Your Parents If They Ask You About Your Girlfriend/Boyfriend

When your friends tease you about your dating life – or lack thereof, you still manage to get away with it. A few seconds of glaring. Maybe one slap on the back. Or joining in the laughter. While trying to think about the perfect comeback that would shut them up.

But what would you say if your parents started talking about your love life? Here are some hilarious responses that would definitely make that conversation interesting!

(Warning : Use these on parents with strong hearts and beware of any flying chhappals!)

1.

Dad: Hey son, how is your girlfriend?

Son: She is good. And dad, I want to tell you something… *blushing*
Dad: What?
Son: You are soon going to be a grandfather.Just four more months. Just four. *touches dad’s feet*

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2.

Mom (with a mischievous grin)  : –  “Koi pataya hua hai kya?”  (Translation : Put your moves on a boy yet?)

Girl (faking annoyance) : – “Kabhi time nikaal ke sikhaaya mujhe kaise patate hain?” (Translation : Did you ever take out time to teach me any moves?)

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3.

Mom: So do you have a girlfriend ? Or are you at least looking at some girls? :p

I knew it was a joke.

Me: Mummy given the sex ratio in UPES, I have started looking into guys for a change. But they aren’t from our religion/caste.

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4.

Mom: Please don’t get a foreign boyfriend.

Daughter: What would you like more – a foreign boy or an Indian girl?

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5.

Mom: ”Where are you going all dressed up? Are you going to meet your girlfriend?”

Son: “Yeah, she is waiting at the bus stop. If I don’t go, somebody else will pick her up!”

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6.

Mom: “Where are you going? And why are you dressed up? Going to meet your boyfriend?”

Daughter: ”Not today. All of them are busy!”

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7.

Dad: Ghar ki yaad nahi aati. Koi GF hai kya? (with a smile) (You don’t remember the family. Do you have any GF ?)

Me : GF to hai aur Ghar ki yaad bhi bahut aati hai .  Isiliye soch rha hu ke uske saath vahi per ghar basa lu.  (I have a GF and I remember family as well. That’s why I am thinking of starting the family with her there itself).

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8.

Mom – Since, your motorcycle does not have a carrier, every girl will be afraid to sit behind you on your bike.

Son - You are right mom but if by any chance one of them sits, they will have to hold me for sure.

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9.

Mom:  So when can we meet your boyfriend?

Daughter: Fine Fine! I’ll bring him home tomorrow but make sure not to ask him about his wife. He gets real mad!

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10.

Dad: So? How’s life going Mr.single? Found any gf or not?

You: Yes dad. I am just excited to introduce her to you. I think you will like her too. She is quite mature and will be able to handle me easily.

Dad: Oh great. Finally. But how?

You: Well, I think she will mix well in our family, she’s almost of your age and has no husband anymore. She just divorced for me. ^_^

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11.

Dad: If you have any girlfriend bring her to us!!!

My phone rang at that moment.

Me: Hi darling, are you coming to home?? My dad is eager to meet you!!

Dad Shocks!! Me Rocks!!

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12.

Dad: What does your boyfriend do for a living?

Daughter: Which one are you talking about Dad?

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13.

Boy with messy hair sits for breakfast with his granny.

Granny: Baal toh cut wale! Teri girlfriend tujhe kuch nai bolti? (at least get a decent hair cut done. Does not your girlfriend complain about it?)

Boy: Nai toh. Lekin abi wo mere room mei so rai hai, jab so k uthegi tab confirm karta hu usse! (No actually. But she is sleeping in my room for now. Let her wake up and then I’ll confirm with her.)

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Do you also know of some befitting answers to give to your parents, relatives or any of those nosy ‘mohalle ke’ uncle and aunty who always seem too interested in knowing about your life outside of home?

Source: http://www.storypick.com/say-what-papa/

Thursday, 28 May 2015

19 Intelligent Jokes That You Need To Read Twice To Understand

Apparently, intellectuals do not find non-veg jokes hilarious or interesting (or perhaps that is just what they say and don’t mean). But what about the not so intellectual ones? If you are one of the non-intellectuals but totally get the jokes of the big brains, then great enough. But if you don’t, then good luck figuring out the logic hidden in the following listed jokes of the smarties.

These may have you scratch your head a little but once you figure the joke, you are sure to react as if you just saw the gold coin on your table even though it had been lying there the whole time.

1. Knock, knock.

Who’s there?

To.

To who?

No, to whom.

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2. What did the DNA say to the other DNA?

“Do these genes make me look fat?”

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3. A Roman walks into a bar and asks for a martinus.

“You mean a martini?” the bartender asks.

The Roman replies, “If I wanted a double, I would have asked for it!”

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Another Roman walks into the bar, holds up two fingers, and says, “Five beers, please.”

 

4. A philosopher says to a linguist “What if, instead of periods, women had apostrophes?”

The linguist replied, “They’d be more possessive and have more frequent contractions.”

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5.  It’s hard to explain puns to kleptomaniacs because they always take things literally!

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6. A Buddhist monk approaches a burger food-truck and says “make me one with everything.”

The Buddhist monk pays with a $20 bill, which the vendor takes, puts in his cash box, and closes the lid.

“Where’s my change?” the monk asks.

The vendor replies, “change comes from within.”

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7. How can you tell the difference between a chemist and a plumber?

Ask them to pronounce “unionized.”

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A plumber would say- ‘you-niun-ized’ ,whereas a chemist would say- ‘un-ayon-ized’. Gettit? Gettit??

 

8. Helium walks into a bar,

The bar tender says “We don’t serve noble gases in here.”

Helium doesn’t react.

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9. Two chemists go into a restaurant.

The first one says “I think I’ll have an H2O.”

The second one says “I think I’ll have an H2O too”

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— and he died.

 

10. What did the scientist say when he found 2 isotopes of helium?

 “HeHe”

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11. A linguistics professor says during a lecture that, “In English, a double negative forms a positive. But in some languages, such as Russian, a double negative is still a negative. However, in no language in the world can a double positive form a negative.”

But then a voice from the back of the room piped up, “Yeah, right.”

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12. A hyperbole is an exaggerated claim. No, really, realllllllllllyyyyy exaggerated. I mean, like, the most exaggerated thing in the history of ever!!

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13. As I said before, I never repeat myself.

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14. I would make another chemistry joke but all good ones are ARGON!

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15. The statement below is true. The statement above is false :/

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16. I wish there was a knob on the TV to turn up the intelligence. There’s a knob called brightness, but it doesn’t work!

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17. The Higgs Boson walks into a church.

The priest says “we don’t allow Higgs Bosons in here”

The Higgs Boson says “but without me how can you have mass?”

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18. I heard that Oxygen and Magnesium got together and I was like..

..”OMg”

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19. There’s a band called 1023MB. They haven’t had any gigs yet though

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How many of these seemingly twisted jokes could you figure without straining your head?

Source: http://www.storypick.com/19-intelligent-jokes/

Things to Say to Generate Good Feelings

At any moment, you can send people positive vibes or negative vibes. You can hug, connecting with people in a positive way, physically and also verbally. Or, you can push people away or knock them down, again either physically or via verbal complaints, disagreement, or blame.(link is external)

Love as a verb involves the emanation of positive energy. Expressions of thanks,gratitude and appreciation, along with a sincere interest in others' lives—and warm smiles—all send forth positive energy. The more positive emanations you send people, the more they will feel appreciated, and appreciate you in return. 

Overdoing the positivity with excessive gushing, like sunshine that is too intense, can be off-putting, but for the most part, people who emanate positive vibes feel "warm." Whether it's your boss, employee, or colleague, or your friend, relative, or partner, warm people feel safe to share with, and, like gentle sunshine, radiate good feelings. Their positivity makes you want to talk with them more; they establish good vibes as a relationship standard.

Positive people avoid being critical or argumentative, negating what you say, or responding dismissively to what you say. Those are the habits of negative people. Interacting with someone who is often negative, or being in a group with a leaderwho sends forth negative words and vibes, can be a downer. Their energy makes others feel insecure, ignored, criticized, irritated, or depressed. Time shared with someone who exudes toxic energy can be downright unpleasant. (If you are living in a household with bickering or outright fights, you'd best learn how to stop arguing(link is external).) Positive individuals and leaders, by contrast, convey interest in your perspective and well-being, along with an appreciation of what you do and say.

You can decide to be more positive. 

The following is a list of sentence starters that launch good vibes. (I'm sure you could add more.) Consider deciding to add some of them to your conversational routine, especially if it feels like your close relationships need a bit of rekindling(link is external), and see what happens:

Yes...
"Yes, going swimming sounds great." ["Yes... but.." has the opposite impact;but negates the positivity of the Yes.]

 I agree...
"I agree that it's too hot to do any exercise other than swimming today."

 I appreciate...
"I appreciate your willingness to pack a lunch."

 Thank you for...
"Thanks so much for getting me moving. I was stuck on my couch all day."

 I like (love, enjoy) ...
"I like that suit! Looks terrific!"

 That makes sense to me...
"Bringing lunch makes sense to mebecause the food at the pool is so expensive."

 I'm pleased (happy, delighted) that... 
"I'm delighted that you invited those guys to join us."

 Good! (Excellent! Great! Wow! Cool! Terrific!, etc.) 
"Great! Let's hop in the car."

 How...?/What...?
These open-ended question words convey warmth and positive views of the other person: "How have you felt about driving since your accident?" "What have you heard lately from your Mom?" 

 Positive non-verbals.

Positive words have even more impact when spoken in an enthusiastic tone of voice, with positive facial expressions. Smiles, laughter, playfulness, "eye hugs" from eye contact—and, with intimates, hugs and other physical expressions of affection—go a long way toward generating good feelings.

Another tip: Eliminate as many negatives as you can, including words like but, no, not, don't like, and attitudes that are critical, sarcastic, or blaming, all of which will drag down the emotional tone of an interaction, undermining whatever positives you bring.

Of course, every sentence you say need not radiate good vibes; overdone or insincere gushing would be counter-productive. But sprinkling a generous seasoning of positive expressions into your interactions can warm your relationships and brighten how people feel when they talk with you, whether you're dealing with a salesperson or co-worker, or a loved one or child at home. 

Emanate positive vibes, even to yourself, and affection and appreciation will return your way. Everyone will enjoy the sunshine!

(Note: Giving positivity is one of four essential arenas of skills that keep relationships positive. Be sure also to develop your skills in the other three communication skill-sets(link is external). That way your smiles and positive words will express genuine inner feelings of well-being as well as outward expression of goodwill.)

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201207/10-things-say-generate-good-feelings?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost

Every world in a grain of sand: John Nash’s astonishing geometry

This article was written by Daniel Mathews from Monash University in Australia. The article was originally published by The Conversation.

As has been widely reported, John Forbes Nash Jr died tragically in a car accident on May 23 of this year. Many tributes have been paid to this great mathematician, who was made famous by Sylvia Nasar’s biography A Beautiful Mind and the subsequent movie based on that book.

Much has been said about Nash’s work ongame theory. But less has been said about Nash’s other mathematical achievements. Many mathematicians who understand Nash’s work would agree, I think, that although his work in game theory had the most impact on other fields, Nash made other breakthroughs which were even more impressive.

Apart from game theory, Nash worked in fields as diverse as algebraic geometry,topology, partial differential equations andcryptography.

But perhaps Nash’s most spectacular results were in geometry. To honour Nash’s life, I would like to try to give a flavour of some of this work.

John Nash and pure mathematics

A great deal of Nash’s work was in the field of geometry. But this kind of geometry - differential geometry - is very different from the geometry learned at high school. It is not about trigonometry or Pythagoras, as found in secondary maths textbooks. Rather, it is about topics like surfaces, curvature and smoothness.

Like all pure mathematicians, Nash proved theorems: logical statements that are rigorous, precise and absolutely true, with no tolerance for vagueness. The world of pure mathematics is austere and often abstruse, but its claims to truth are eternal and absolute.

Well, that’s the theory at least. Breakthroughs in pure mathematics are often at the very limits of human understanding. It takes time, even for those in the field, to fully comprehend new developments.

Nash’s work was an extreme case. His papers could be chaotically presented, hard to follow and his approaches to problems were often unlike anything that had come before him, bamboozling students and experts alike. But he was almost otherworldly in his creativity.

While mathematical arguments are tightly constrained by the rigorous requirements of logic, Nash’s constructions and methods were wild. And nowhere was this more so than in his work on geometry.

Nash’s geometry

Take a flat sheet of paper. You can bend it, but without ripping it or creasing it, what shapes can you make? You can’t make a sphere, or even a section of a sphere, because a sphere is curved, while the paper is flat.

But you can make a cylinder. And even a cone, as you’ll know if you’ve ever seen a dunce’s hat. (This fact is also useful for making waffle cones, as shown below.)

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As it turns out, even though a cylinder or a cone looks curved, it is intrinsically flat. In an undergraduate course on differential geometry (such as the one I teach at Monash), one studies this intrinsic curvature, and it turns out that there are lots of flat surfaces.

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These ideas were around for hundreds of years before Nash, but Nash took them much further.

The embedding problem

Nash took up the idea of 'embedding' a surface: placing it into space without tearing, creasing or crossing itself. An embedding which does not distort the surface’s intrinsic geometry is 'isometric'. In other words, the surfaces above are 'isometric embeddings' of the plane into 3-dimensional space.

The isometric embedding question can be asked not just for the plane, but for any possible surface: spheres, donuts (which mathematicians call tori to try to sound respectable) and many others.

As it turns out, there are surfaces that are so strongly curved or tangled up that they cannot be embedded into 3-dimensional space at all. In fact, they can’t even be embedded into 4-dimensional space.

But Nash showed that any surface can be embedded into 17-dimensional space. Extra dimensions, far from making the problem even more difficult, actually make it easier - giving you more room to embed your surface! Later on, Nash’s work was improved by others, and we now know that any surface can be embedded into 5-dimensional space.

However, surfaces are only 2-dimensional. And Nash was interested in surfaces of any possible dimension. These higher dimensional analogues of surfaces are known as 'manifolds'.

Nash proved that you can always embed a manifold into space of some dimension, without distorting its geometry. With this momentous result, he solved the isometric embedding problem.

Nash’s proof of the isometric embedding problem came as a complete surprise to much of the mathematical community. His methods were revolutionary. The great mathematician Mikhail Gromov said that Nash’s work on the embedding problemstruck him to be “as convincing as lifting oneself by the hair”. But after great effort, Gromov finally understood Nash’s proof: at the end of Nash’s lengthy argument, Gromov said, Nash “miraculously, did lift you in the air by the hair”!

Isometric embedding in action

Gromov went on to develop his own ideas, inspired by Nash’s work. He wrote a book - similarly renowned among mathematicians for its incomprehensibility, just like Nash’s work - in which he developed a method called 'convex integration'.

Gromov’s method had several advantages. One is that it is easier to draw pictures of an embedding made with his convex integration method. Prior to Gromov, we knew isometric embeddings existed, and had wonderful properties, but had a very tough time trying to visualise them, not least because they were often in higher dimensions.

In 2012, a team of French mathematiciansproduced computer graphics of isometric embeddings using Gromov’s convex integration methods. They are extremely intricate, almost fractal-like, yet smooth. Some are shown below.

The world in a grain of sand

Nash’s work on the isometric embedding problem has many facets and has led to huge amounts of subsequent research.

One particularly amazing aspect is how isometric embeddings are constructed. Nash’s work, combined with subsequent work by Nicolaas Kuiper, showed that if you wanted to isometrically embed a surface in 3-dimensional space, it’s enough to be able to shrink it.

If you have a 'shrunken' embedding of your surface - that is, with all lengths decreased - then Nash and Kuiper show how you can obtain an isometric embedding of your surface just by adjusting your shrunken version a bit.

This sounds ridiculous. For instance, take a sphere - say the surface of a tennis ball - and imagine shrinking it down to have a nanometre radius. Nash and Kuiper show that by 'ruffling' the surface sufficiently (but always smoothly; no creasing or folding or ripping or tearing allowed!) you can have an isometric copy of your original tennis ball, all contained within this nanometre radius. This type of 'ruffling' of the surface was reproduced in the French team’s computer graphics.

The French team considered taking a flat square piece of paper. Glue the top side to the bottom side, to get a cylinder. Now glue the left side to the right side. If you think about it, you might be able to see that you get a donut. But you’ll find the paper is now creased or distorted.

Can you embed it into 3-dimensional space without distortion? Nash and Kuiper say “yes”. Gromov says “use convex integration”. And the French mathematicians say “this is what it looks like”!

Hevea Project

More pictures are available at the Project’swebsite.

But the mathematical theorem doesn’t just apply to tennis balls or donuts: the theorem holds for any manifold of any dimension. Any world can be contained in a grain of sand.

How did he do it?

Nash had a rare combination of genius and hard work. In her biography of Nash, Sylvia Nasar details his formidable intensity and effort spent working on the problem.

As is well known from the movie, Nash came to believe in outlandish conspiracy theories involving aliens and supernatural beings, as a result of his schizophrenia. When later asked why he, an extremely intelligent scientist, could believe in such things, he said those ideas “came to me the same way that my mathematical ideas did. So I took them seriously”.

And frankly, if my head told me ideas as accurate and as insightful as those needed to prove the isometric embedding theorem, I’d likely trust it on aliens and the supernatural too.

Source: http://www.sciencealert.com/every-world-in-a-grain-of-sand-john-nash-s-astonishing-geometry

Wednesday, 27 May 2015

Move on lad, Past is not going to change


I see people overwhelming in bad situations and need a pathway to escape from sufferings. Life is all about failures. No doubt people celebrate and enjoy success but true lessons are learnt from failures. Be it a situation when a dear one dies, or a fail attempt in an exam or when you break up a relationship. These are all situations that put us on backfoot and lead to pain and depression. But each moment has to offer something; you just need to open yourself for the gift.
Moving on simply doesn’t mean to forget things but to realize the truth and continue to live with it instead. A handful of advices may help you recover from your situation are listed herein. Have a look.
1)      It takes time- Remember that Rome was not built in a day. Every activity in this world consumes time. For you to move on, give some time and see the change occur. Gradually, you’ll feel more accustomed to the situation and be more comfortable with the change. World is changing each second and so are you. Give it a break and experience the change yourself.
2)      Realize- Realization of truth is very much necessary. To imagine a perfect world is totally normal but we must not forget how the real world actually is. If a girl leaves you amidst your belongings, realize that she is gone and there is no coming back. Any attempt to do so would only be unjust to you. Realize the importance of your own life and the people whose happiness depend on you. Realize that life is one complete package of ups and downs and time shall change.
3)      Take care of yourself- Running after things that were never yours would only make your condition miserable. Focus on what you currently have, estimate your potential and give your shot to make future better. Suicidal thoughts are more often seen in youngsters, which is never an option. Simply care for yourself and things will fall into place, believe me they surely will. You, yourself need to stitch your wounds because nobody else would.
4)      Engage- Diverting your mind is the first step to get over in these sort of situations. Plan a trip with friends, go for a movie, an adventure camp, exercising at a gym, cleaning the room, reading a novel or a comic and many more activities tend to distract you from going back to the thing which is bothering you. As soon as you get a thought about the very same person who left you, try and think of something funny or start noticing things around you. A simple excercise is saying out loud or in the mind the following:
5 things you see around
4 things you can touch
3 sounds you can practically hear
 color of your upper and lower/ pant-shirt
1 what you presently can smell
5)      Distance- You may have to be a little harsh on yourself and start avoiding the one who left you, and you have to focus more on things at hand, people who matter. It surely will hurt at first and then settle as sand in water. Start with a determination that you won’t let yourself bend any further, instead be stiff as a stone. You also need to distance from any thought you get about any incidents from the past that may take you back to zero.
6)      One last time- At times of heartbroken situations, it may be, for many of us, not so easy to let go. Don’t worry, it is totally normal. Politely ask the person to have a conversation one last time, either personally or over the phone, as is comforting. Confront confidently for one last time. Let anything in you flow, everything. Things might change however the equation is imaginary, but be prepared for the worst, the real truth. If odds remain against you, go to step 1 and repeat.

Thursday, 21 May 2015

First to last, all in a day


I have never been in such a dilemma where my brain and heart differ in opinion. We are talking about a situation where my intellect was fooled by my heart. Certain things in life are not to stay but give us lessons for lifetime. I have this great skill to keenly observe things that can soothe or potentially threaten me but before I knew, I was already hit. Anything that ever has ever happened to me, has changed me in a way that I won’t go back to the person I was.
This is all about this amazing girl that I happen to meet a few months back. The meeting was totally anonymous as my roommate asked one of his female friends to set up a meeting as he was very much interested in this girl and to mention, I am the guy who is nowhere in the scene. I am already complacent with my belongings with minimal desires, until this took place. We are a group of three college final year students who reside in a rented apartment.
Encounter 1- Now, both the girls showed up at our place at around 6 in the evening. I still remember it was 23rd of March and the weather was favorable for any sort of activity outside. It was a formal meeting and all five of us were comfortable, we the three flatmates and the two girls. Some chit-chats on random topics and it was dark outside and the girls left after about two hours of random activities.
I found the girl quite attractive and fun loving who sees life with a very positive attitude, one practical girl to say. She was nice to everybody and nice people get attention too easily.
Later, the next day I enquired from the friend about how she felt and to my surprise she said that you guys were indeed nice to her. She felt totally comfortable and enjoyed the moments. I was amused to hear the words.
I initiated the online conversation and replies were positive and totally complemented my humor. A few days of chit-chat and we planned to meet one fine evening.
Encounter 2- I invited her for a treat and the response was once again a positive one, April the 5th. I was more than excited to see her but the other party never felt the same way as I could easily figure out by the way she replied to me. It’s just the second time I’ve met her and already I sense something happening, but one sided only. Since we were again in the group everybody was talking and topics just got random. By the day ended, we had discussed from cricket to TV actors, from personal interests to alcoholic brands, and many anonymous things.
Encounter 3- After exactly a week, in the evening I got a text and she said she is going out for dinner with her friends. I myself was very much busy with college wind up projects and said her to have fun. She invited me over and I could not resist. In no time we were filling from belly to mouth. Meanwhile, her friends had to leave while we were still stuffing ourselves. She said a good bye to them and again we were onto food. After the heavy meal, we were out for a walk and I showed that I care for her but she took it in a very casual way.
By this time I was friend zoned and any step at this point would ruin everything. At the same time my finals were on the run and my arse on fire. She asked to stop by the room but I denied as the exams were already consuming all my time and energy.
Encounter 4- April 25th, the last day of college and I invited both the girls for some food and supper in the evening. She denied at first but something changed her mind and she showed up, though quite late. I arranged for food and drinks and it was late already. I did not knew if vomiting my feelings today would be good or not, but the words said are always better than regret for a lifetime. I said it, horribly though, messing up things. I already knew what was coming my way. It’s not about the happy ending always, sometimes story does matter. In life, there are more than things to learn and I say live each moment, enjoy and learn from it. It was a negative, yet she added, to be friends. I knew things were going to be clumsy past this night.
Why wouldn’t it be? It was just a month that we met and some casual meetings, that’s it and out of blue I said so many complicating things. I had no choice either; it’s the last chance, last day afterall. I won’t get a single moment to see or tell her once we left. So that was an end from her side, but I had more to say, more to express but to push any further would only be absurd. The situation got awkward as the time passed and she had already started to dislike and ignore me. Not to get what I deserve is painful, but to get what I don’t is also unjust. I let go things that day, because to love is let go and let go was my choice.
Hard times now begin when I’m miles away from her, have her contact, want to talk, know about her well being, but can’t. Nothing in the life is permanent, be it man, material or place, but memories. I held myself together but a part of me feels different. I always wanted to meet her one last time, put my eyes in her’s and show her what was in me but there is no turning back. I usually do not open myself to everyone but this was different.
I am home now but the feelings are not getting away, leading me to lack of focus, depression and ultimately sadness. It was supposed to fade away but is getting stronger instead. This is very much detrimental to my career and reputation. I never felt this way all my life, no matter what took place. If you pull me inside out, you’d find a man strong, mentally, emotionally and physically. But time can make you kneel for anything in this world.
I took some of my savings, packed my bag and went on a distant trip, booked a room, locked it down and cried endlessly. A tear trickled down my cheek, a second one and a third. This was it. Those precious drops were a part of me that had to be shredded off. It was neither a person nor time that I cried for; it was my perception that made me cry. The element of surprise, it did help loosen the grip and now I can relive those moments without any pain or suffering. It is one human behavior that I understood is that we do not share our feelings with everybody. I am amused by the people who try and make fun of my insecurities.
Friends suggest to move on. Moving on simply doesn’t mean to forget things but realize the truth and continue living with it. I myself am amazed to see a guy like me who has always trolled about love, passion and feelings, was now getting trolled. It was for someone who complimented my humor and sarcasm. It’s been a long time now since everything happened but there are a few things still hazy. Firstly, all these years I’ve been living under the impression that I do not care for things that do not associate with me, turns out to be false. Secondly, why has been there a change in my priorities and thirdly, I need to figure out who, why or what, the third tear was for.
The interesting part is; I realized it was my first love on the last day of college, funny, isn’t it.

A vanished friend


Whenever I miss someone, my emotions flow and words describe them as:

Around the corner I have a Friend,
in this gr8 city, that has NO end...,

Yes, d days go by and weeks rush on,
and before I know it, a
year has gone....,

And I never see my old frnd's face,
coz life is a terrible RACE...,

Tomorrow I say, I will call my frnd,
just to show I'm thinking of you, and...,

But tomorrow comes and goes,
and distance between us grows and
grows....,

Around the corner, yet miles away,
here's your Telegram-
"sir, Your friend DIED today"!...,

And that what we deserve, and
get in the end,
around the Corner a 
VANISHED FRIEND....,!!

Monday, 18 May 2015

As it happened: PM Modi in Mongolia


Key Highlights

  • Watch live: PM Modi at community reception in Mongolia
    02:46 PM
  • PM Modi now attending community reception in Mongolia
    02:44 PM
  • PM Modi presented Mongolian President Elbegdorj a specially commissioned reproduction of a rare 13th century manuscript on the history of Mongols
    02:07 PM
  • PM Narendra Modi tries his hand at archery at Chingisiin Khuree Camp
    01:23 PM
  • PM Narendra Modi attends mini Naadam festival at Chingisiin Khuree Camp, Ulaan Bator
    01:20 PM
  • PM Modi lays foundation stone of IT Centre at Mongolian University of Science & Technology
    11:37 AM
  • Both sides will expand cooperation in fields of economy, defence & security, health, science and people to people contacts: Joint statement
    09:56 AM
  • PM Modi in Mongolia
    09:56 AM
  • I found special connectivity with this parliament, there is a symbol of lotus here. You’ll be happy to know that my party’s symbol is also lotus, so I found a special connectivity: Modi
    09:22 AM
  • PM Modi concludes his speech at the Mongolian parliament
    09:08 AM
  • The convergence of Buddhism and democracy provides us a path to build an Asia of peace and cooperation, harmony and equality.
    09:08 AM
  • We draw confidence from unity of our nation and common purpose of our people: PM Modi
    09:07 AM
  • In less than an year, India has emerged as one of the fastest growing major economies of the world: PM Modi
    09:04 AM
  • Modi in Mongolian parliament: Five decades ago, we stood firmly with you, as you sought membership of the United Nations as a proud and sovereign nation
    08:57 AM
  • Today Indians and Mongolians are telling the world that bonds of hearts & minds have the strength to overcome barriers of distances: PM Modi
    08:56 AM
  • There is no higher form of relationship, no bonds more sacred than this, we in India are honored that you think of us this way: PM Modi
    08:53 AM
  • Mongolia is the new bright light of democracy in our world: Modi
    08:51 AM
  • I’m deeply grateful for your generosity in hosting me on a Sunday, I’m humbled by warmth, welcome & wonderful hospitality: PM Modi
    08:51 AM
  • It's an honor to address the parliament of Mongolia, it's a special privilege to do so in 25th year of democracy in Mongolia: PM Modi
    08:47 AM
  • Your country reminds us how beautiful this world is: PM Modi speaking at Parliament of Mongolia
    08:47 AM
  • PM Modi addresses the Parliament in Mongolia
    08:44 AM
  • List of agreements signed between India, Mongolia
    08:36 AM
  • 14 agreements signed between India and Mongolia
    08:35 AM
  • We have agreed India will help establish a cyber security centre in Mongolia: PM Modi
    08:04 AM
  • PM Modi in talks with PM of Mongolia Chimed Saikhanbileg
    08:04 AM
  • PM accorded ceremonial welcome on his arrival at the State Palace on Sunday morning
    08:00 AM
  • We agreed that economic growth in India and Mongolia is opening up new opprtunities: PM Modi
    07:57 AM
  • We are starting a new era in our partnership. PM Modi
    07:55 AM
  • India will provide a line of credit of 1 billion US dollars to support expansion of Mongolia's economic capacity and infrastructure: PM Modi
    07:43 AM