Laws of Karma !

Karma is more than a rude b**ch. It’s like a stern teacher out to whack you with a ruler and tell you where you’re going wrong. But like with most things, karma too has its rules. 

1. The Great Law Of Karma

“As you sow, so shall you reap.”

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The most important and factual law of karma, this is something you need to keep in mind while taking important decisions in your life. For instance, say today, you don’t respect your parents. But it will come back to you when your own kids don’t respect you in the future. It’s karma. It works like a boomerang. So if you want to be happy, gain respect and live in peace, you need to spread happiness, respect others and be peaceful. 

2. The Law of Creation

“Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.”

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You want to be a millionaire. You desperately want to be. Every time you look at Mark Zuckerberg, you take a long sigh and like each and every one of his posts on Facebook. But what else do you do? Do you work hard like Mark Zuckerberg did to build an empire? Or do you just dream of a million bucks falling off from the roof and landing in your lap? Well, that can happen only in movies. In a real world, you will have to sweat it out to earn each and every penny of the fortune you will make. You will need to participate. Miracles don’t happen by sitting at home watchingGame of Thrones marathons.

3. The Law of Humility

“You can’t change something if you refuse to accept it.”

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For instance, you have a crush on someone. An intense, crazy and selfless crush. However, the person on whom you have a crush doesn’t feel the same way. You tell them about your feelings. But they say, “hey, sorry I don’t feel the same way.” But you still try to convince them on how you are the one for them and how you will love them endlessly, selflessly. That still doesn’t convince your crush. What do you do? Threaten to kill yourself? Even if you do, you cannot change a person’s view if you haven’t accepted it. Accept that they don’t like you, and move on. You really can’t do anything about it.

4. The Law of Growth

“For us to grow in spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places or things around us.”

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Self-actualisation is the key to contentment. You cannot change people, nor can you change your surroundings. You will have to adapt yourself to the situations and change accordingly. That’s the ground rule of survival. 

5. The Law of Responsibility

“We must take responsibility for what is in our life.”

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You can’t just shrug responsibilities off your shoulders. If you do so, you will live a life of a coward who does nothing for himself and his society. Like habit, responsibilities also make a man. Therefore, take responsibilities of your mistakes and correct the wrong.

6. The Law of Connection

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“Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the universe is connected.”

Remember how Steve Jobs thought his calligraphy lessons were a waste, but the same lessons taught him a lot about font design 10 years later? In the same way, whatever you might be doing now is never really a waste because it will come to your aid some time later, if not now. You may be doing a sweeper’s job at a hotel now, but you will eventually learn something from it and apply it when you are promoted to the managerial role of housekeeping. Connecting the dots will take you a long way.

7. The Law of Focus 

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“You cannot think of two things at the same time.”

Multitasking is surely a great skill. However, there are chances of flaws in work when you multitask. You will get the work done. But the work will be satisfactory, and not exceptional. It is thus necessary to concentrate on one thing and give your best there, rather than not focusing on any of the two.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

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“If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.”

It’s like a gang of friends crack opening a lie you’ve been harnessing. If you advocate anti-corruption, the world will want to know that you aren’t corrupt. Therefore, look before you advocate.

9. The Law of Here and Now

“Old thoughts, old patterns of behaviour, old dreams prevent us from having new ones.”

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Unless you don’t embrace the new, you’re going to play the same old, tarnished record. It’s when you make changes and adapt to a new lifestyle that you see improvement in your life.

10. The Law of Change

“History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.”

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Learning from mistakes is an important skill, which we need to learn quickly the moment we make mistakes.  Or else, we will keep making mistakes and life would be hell. On the other hand, learning from the mistakes of other people is also a smart move. You just need to observe and avoid doing things which someone else did.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

“Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.”

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In today’s instant world, results are expected to be served like instant coffee. However, if you want long results, you will have to take the long road and wait patiently. Haste will never give you long-lasting results.

12. The Law of Significance And Inspiration

“You get back from something whatever you have put into it.”

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Same as the first and the sixth law, this law states the fundamental law of karma that – as you sow, so shall you reap. The message is simple. Your actions will decide the course of the reaction. Therefore, treat others how you'd want to be treated.

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How to stop absorbing Negative Energy

Empathy is the ability to recognize and feel other peoples emotions. Sympathy is feeling compassion for other people. Often times to be an “empath” means that you are absorbing much of the pain and suffering in your environment, which can sacrifice your won ability to function at a high level.

If you have every been in a room with a negative person, you know just how toxic their energy can be.  Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies is such a great spiritual skill to have.  Here are five ways to stop absorbing other people’s energy.

1) Remember, you can’t please everyone

If someone is bullying you, complaining about you, or dissing you, do not make it your mission to try to convince that person to like you.  This will only suck you deeper into that energy field and will make you energetically dependent on their opinion of you.

Not everyone is going to like you. Everyone on earth is living here for a different purpose. By loving yourself first, you will create a forcefield around other peoples opinions that will protect you from being so drained by their opinions.

Also remember, you can’t change everyone. Don’t make it your mission to fix them in that moment either.  Sometimes, the best thing you can do is not try to change them but to just not feed the energy that they are projecting at you.

2) Be careful who you invite into your life

Your body, mind and direct environment is your temple. Who are you inviting in? Is it an open invitation? Do people even have to wipe their feet clean before walking around or is it ok if they drag mud onto your soul? In Brazil there is a slang word called folgado. The direct meaning is “loose” or “lazy” but it really means “freeloader”. There is not exact english equivalent though because it is a mentality even more than a lifestyle.

If you give a person a piece of bread one day, they will be asking for the loaf the next. If you let someone stay for a weekend, they will then try to stay the week (or two!). I once thought my wife was cold and mean spirited towards some of our neighbors. Once I realized she was merely respecting herself and her home, I valued her direction and adopted it as my own.

It is great to be generous but there is a fine line to work with so you are not being trampled on, thus disabling you from helping those who truly need it. Learn to say “no” and to be ok with that.

3) Stop paying attention

A parasite needs a host to survive. When you pay attention to somebody else, you are giving them energy. Whatever you focus on grows and energy vampires will steal your thoughts – decreasing your energy levels. Some people will dump their energy onto you and then drive on to the next pit stop. A friendly ear can be a wonderful thing but there is, again, a line that does not need to be crossed.

Perhaps you’ve found yourself being the source for a person to relay their frustrations at work, a relationship or even successful accomplishments. All of these emotions can drain you in various ways and cause you to measure your own life in ways that are not productive.

Love yourself enough to tune them out, tell them to stop, or tell them you can’t handle it right now.  It’s not mean of you to reject their toxic energy.

4) Breathe in nature

Go into nature, meditate, relax and breathe. Purify the water within yourself, exercise and float easy. Like a butterfly, float gently but move fast. Breathing increases the bloodflow circulation around the body and will help prevent to absorb energy from those around you. Walk with confidence, keep your head up and don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior. A caterpillar eats everything around it and becomes fat, immobile. It must first become light in order to fly.

5) Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and emotions

How you feel is 100% your own responsibility. The universe is sending people into your life to test us. The perception we have of ourselves is greater than the perception others have of us. You are not a victim, nobody has power over you.  Consider how your thoughts or expectations may have manifested the situation that is bothering you.  What if the answer lies within your level of patience, irritability, or compassion? Unless we take the time to look, we subconsciously affirm our own victimization to the world around us.

Once you hold yourself accountable and responsible for the way you choose to respond to something, you connect with yourself on a deeper level.  When you are connected to yourself on a deeper level, you don’t get knocked off your center as easily.

Place yourself in situations that boost your own energies. Does this person make you feel good? Do you make that person feel good? You are worthy of a brilliant experience and it is time to realize that fact.  Learning to protect yourself against other people’s energies starts with self-love.  Remember that you are worth of happiness and peace, it’s ok to say no. and you are the author of your own energetic state.

source: thespiritscience.net

Ideal career for globetrotters

Everyone dreams of travelling the world and seeing all the sights that are lauded on the internet. However, because of work constraints, this is often impossible. You’d probably consider yourself lucky if you can get away for a long weekend to the closest hill station with a few friends (and planning can be a harrowing task because everyone is as busy as you are). The travel bug within you is always going to be disappointed at the life you’re living. Unless you have a magical career that allows you to travel!

Yes, those exist. Here’s a list of ideal careers for globetrotters that you can consider while choosing your courses or applying somewhere.

1. Become a flight attendant

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Contrary to popular belief, not all failed models become flight attendants. Many people who have a passion for the hospitality sector as well as travelling choose this option as it lets them see the world, literally at no personal expense. Airlines put up cabin crew in hotels throughout the country and abroad and you even get a slight allowance to shop or eat. However, if you’re interested in some major splurging, that’ll have to happen from your savings, obviously. Conversely, if you have a major passion for flying, you can also choose to become a pilot.

The price to pay:

In exchange for this amazing life, you have to deal with jet lag and possible mood swings that stem from the tirednes

2. Retail Buying / Supply Chain Management

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Retail buying / supply chain management includes ensuring that the merchandise in a set of stores is always available. This means that you will often have to travel back and forth from different stores and manufacturing units across the country and, in time, the world. This career choice is ideal for those who not only like travelling but also enjoy shopping.

The price to pay:

While you’re at the junior level, there’s a high chance that you will be sent to travel to boring locations as opposed to thrilling ones but that will change as you progress higher up the corporate ladder.

3. Join the Peace Corps

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This is an option that is ideal for people who not only care about travelling but also making a difference. As a part of the Peace Corps, you will be able to enjoy a ton of benefits such as housing, student loan deferment and even health benefits. Your scope of work can range from working in education, sectors of health care and even agricultural or economic development. A single commitment to the Peace Corps lasts two years. This is ideal for people who want to take a gap year after high school and are unsure about the courses they want to pursue as this not only lets you travel and explore, it also looks great on your resume at the end of the day! Thus, you won’t have to deal with awkward explanations during your interviews for other jobs. However, if you’re really unsure about what you want and don’t think Peace Corps are an option, you can always check out our list of courses for the undecided.

The price to pay:

As a Peace Corps Volunteer, you won’t really be paid a lot however, on the flip side, you will learn how to survive on a budget

4. Become a Consultant with a leading firm

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This job may not be as creatively fulfilling as the other ones on the list but it certainly has a lot of scope for travel. A consultancy agency usually has branches and clients all over the world and depending on the project that you’re working on, you will be required to travel and even live abroad for certain spans of time to either oversee the project or help out in any capacity.

The price to pay:

In order to really excel in this field, you must be ready for a hard-core corporate environment. If you’re not really comfortable with that, you might have trouble reaching the level you need to be at to be sent abroad regularly.

5. Teach ESL

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ESL stands for English as a Second Language and you’ll be surprised at how many countries get in ESL teachers from all over the world, including India. Like the Peace Corps, this is also a two year commitment where you are required to not only travel to a distant land but also live there.

The price you pay:

You’re going to have to deal with kids. Lots of them!

There are a lot of amazing careers for globetrotters out there for you to choose from. As a special shout out, I’d like to mention travel journalism, travel photographer and travel agent however, these are highly specialized fields where travelling isn’t always an option as all the information you need is available on the internet.

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The Key to Intimacy for Any Relationship

We all want to feel a part of the fabric of life. We want love and intimacy rather than the grinding pain of loneliness. But how to create closeness remains a frustrating puzzle until we deeply realize that being intimate with others is not something we can control; we can’t bend people toward our will.

Being human means being vulnerable. How many times have we pursued contact, only to have our sensitive heart met with the rough shards of shame and criticism? As our overtures for connection are met with rejection, we may keep ourselves hidden to protect our tender heart. Or we try to override our vulnerability through displays of anger, blame, or manipulation.

The desire to stay safe and avoid danger is governed by our amygdala(link is external), which is a part of the "old brain." It scans the environment to dodge threats to our safety and well-being. Modern-day threats are not wild beasts, but rather the indelicate ways we treat each other, which lead to a painful isolation and the shame of feeling badly about ourselves.

Growing up, if we felt repeatedly unsafe to show our true feelings and desires, that vulnerable part of us went into hiding. We may have become avoidantly attached in our relationships—tentatively reaching out, but staying well-defended and not allowing others to get close. Or, we may become anxiously attached(link is external)—scanning for any hint of discord. When trust with ourselves and others has been frayed, then even the slightest misunderstanding or friction may be experienced as a tsunami-like disruption of trust, which may lead to rage or running away.

Misunderstandings and friction arise in even the best of relationships. Uncomfortable or difficult feelings are often the result of unmet longings for love, connection, and understanding. We receive a harsh word or insensitive response; a phone call is promised but not received. Trust gets disrupted. A longing arises...but is not satisfied.

When things don’t go our way, we may feel a sudden vulnerability—from the exposure of a desire that is not fulfilled by the other—that we don’t know how to soothe. Rage and blame are common reactions when we’re unable to soothe the beast within. 

Making Room for Our Vulnerability

Life and relationships go better as we make room for our human vulnerability, not shut it down. When our self-protective instincts try to safeguard us from emotional pain, we attack, accuse, or withdraw. Rather than gracefully dance with the fire(link is external) of our discomforting emotions by engaging with them skillfully, we fan the flames of mutual discontent, which further incinerates the trust and connection we long for. Practices such as meditation and Focusing offer a way to be present with our feelings without being overwhelmed by them, which allows for self-soothing. We discover that feelings come and go as we develop an inner way to hold them and hear what they might be trying to tell us.

Our task is not to transcend our humanity in a misguided effort to ease our pain or polish some favorable self-image. Nor is it to take flight into some transcendent, spiritualized state that leaves our humanity in the dust. Emotional and spiritual maturity rests upon the wisdom and ability to welcome our vulnerable feelings and engage with them wisely. A climate for love and intimacy is created as we mindfully notice, embrace, and befriend what is vulnerably alive inside us—and being willing to take intelligent risks in revealing that to people who we trust and want to feel more connected to. By mutually sharing the tender places inside us, we offer a precious gift to each other.

Periodically pausing during our day can help us notice what we’re actually feeling inside. Rather than clinging to how we’d like to feel or to what we want, we simply allow ourselves to be present with what actually is. It can actually feel good and empowering to allow ourselves to have our experience just as it is--honoring ourselves and loving ourselves just as we are, regardless of others' responses to us.

Here is an exercise adapted from the approach of Eugene Gendlin(link is external), who developed Focusing:(link is external) When you feel a sudden sense of vulnerability (perhaps a fear, sadness, or hurt that arises from some interaction or pops up randomly during your day), take a moment to pause before responding. Notice how you are feeling. What do you notice inside your body right now? Is your stomach tight, chest constricted, breathing constrained?

Simply allow yourself to feel whatever you happen to be feeling—with some sense of spaciousness around it. You may need to find the right distance from the emotions so that you don’t get overwhelmed by them. You may want to visualize yourself putting your arms around the feeling, perhaps gently saying to this part of yourself: “I really hear that you are hurting right now (or sad or afraid). It’s OK to be feeling this way.” If it feels like too much, you may try putting the feeling some distance from you and observing it—or being with it as you’d be with a hurting child.

Being gentle with our vulnerability rather than being ashamed or afraid of it can help it settle. Or just notice how scary it is and be gentle with that. If a particular feeling is especially troublesome, you may want to get some help from a therapist to explore it.

Developing a relationship with the place in us that sometimes feels insecure and vulnerable helps us become stronger and more secure. Paradoxically, we find security and stability not by avoiding or denying our basic human vulnerability—or feeling ashamed of it—but by engaging with it in an honest, gentle, skillful way.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com