Laws of Karma !

Karma is more than a rude b**ch. It’s like a stern teacher out to whack you with a ruler and tell you where you’re going wrong. But like with most things, karma too has its rules. 

1. The Great Law Of Karma

“As you sow, so shall you reap.”

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The most important and factual law of karma, this is something you need to keep in mind while taking important decisions in your life. For instance, say today, you don’t respect your parents. But it will come back to you when your own kids don’t respect you in the future. It’s karma. It works like a boomerang. So if you want to be happy, gain respect and live in peace, you need to spread happiness, respect others and be peaceful. 

2. The Law of Creation

“Life doesn’t just happen. It requires our participation.”

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You want to be a millionaire. You desperately want to be. Every time you look at Mark Zuckerberg, you take a long sigh and like each and every one of his posts on Facebook. But what else do you do? Do you work hard like Mark Zuckerberg did to build an empire? Or do you just dream of a million bucks falling off from the roof and landing in your lap? Well, that can happen only in movies. In a real world, you will have to sweat it out to earn each and every penny of the fortune you will make. You will need to participate. Miracles don’t happen by sitting at home watchingGame of Thrones marathons.

3. The Law of Humility

“You can’t change something if you refuse to accept it.”

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For instance, you have a crush on someone. An intense, crazy and selfless crush. However, the person on whom you have a crush doesn’t feel the same way. You tell them about your feelings. But they say, “hey, sorry I don’t feel the same way.” But you still try to convince them on how you are the one for them and how you will love them endlessly, selflessly. That still doesn’t convince your crush. What do you do? Threaten to kill yourself? Even if you do, you cannot change a person’s view if you haven’t accepted it. Accept that they don’t like you, and move on. You really can’t do anything about it.

4. The Law of Growth

“For us to grow in spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places or things around us.”

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Self-actualisation is the key to contentment. You cannot change people, nor can you change your surroundings. You will have to adapt yourself to the situations and change accordingly. That’s the ground rule of survival. 

5. The Law of Responsibility

“We must take responsibility for what is in our life.”

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You can’t just shrug responsibilities off your shoulders. If you do so, you will live a life of a coward who does nothing for himself and his society. Like habit, responsibilities also make a man. Therefore, take responsibilities of your mistakes and correct the wrong.

6. The Law of Connection

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“Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the universe is connected.”

Remember how Steve Jobs thought his calligraphy lessons were a waste, but the same lessons taught him a lot about font design 10 years later? In the same way, whatever you might be doing now is never really a waste because it will come to your aid some time later, if not now. You may be doing a sweeper’s job at a hotel now, but you will eventually learn something from it and apply it when you are promoted to the managerial role of housekeeping. Connecting the dots will take you a long way.

7. The Law of Focus 

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“You cannot think of two things at the same time.”

Multitasking is surely a great skill. However, there are chances of flaws in work when you multitask. You will get the work done. But the work will be satisfactory, and not exceptional. It is thus necessary to concentrate on one thing and give your best there, rather than not focusing on any of the two.

8. The Law of Giving and Hospitality

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“If you believe something to be true, then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth.”

It’s like a gang of friends crack opening a lie you’ve been harnessing. If you advocate anti-corruption, the world will want to know that you aren’t corrupt. Therefore, look before you advocate.

9. The Law of Here and Now

“Old thoughts, old patterns of behaviour, old dreams prevent us from having new ones.”

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Unless you don’t embrace the new, you’re going to play the same old, tarnished record. It’s when you make changes and adapt to a new lifestyle that you see improvement in your life.

10. The Law of Change

“History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.”

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Learning from mistakes is an important skill, which we need to learn quickly the moment we make mistakes.  Or else, we will keep making mistakes and life would be hell. On the other hand, learning from the mistakes of other people is also a smart move. You just need to observe and avoid doing things which someone else did.

11. The Law of Patience and Reward

“Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil.”

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In today’s instant world, results are expected to be served like instant coffee. However, if you want long results, you will have to take the long road and wait patiently. Haste will never give you long-lasting results.

12. The Law of Significance And Inspiration

“You get back from something whatever you have put into it.”

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Same as the first and the sixth law, this law states the fundamental law of karma that – as you sow, so shall you reap. The message is simple. Your actions will decide the course of the reaction. Therefore, treat others how you'd want to be treated.

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How to stop absorbing Negative Energy

Empathy is the ability to recognize and feel other peoples emotions. Sympathy is feeling compassion for other people. Often times to be an “empath” means that you are absorbing much of the pain and suffering in your environment, which can sacrifice your won ability to function at a high level.

If you have every been in a room with a negative person, you know just how toxic their energy can be.  Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies is such a great spiritual skill to have.  Here are five ways to stop absorbing other people’s energy.

1) Remember, you can’t please everyone

If someone is bullying you, complaining about you, or dissing you, do not make it your mission to try to convince that person to like you.  This will only suck you deeper into that energy field and will make you energetically dependent on their opinion of you.

Not everyone is going to like you. Everyone on earth is living here for a different purpose. By loving yourself first, you will create a forcefield around other peoples opinions that will protect you from being so drained by their opinions.

Also remember, you can’t change everyone. Don’t make it your mission to fix them in that moment either.  Sometimes, the best thing you can do is not try to change them but to just not feed the energy that they are projecting at you.

2) Be careful who you invite into your life

Your body, mind and direct environment is your temple. Who are you inviting in? Is it an open invitation? Do people even have to wipe their feet clean before walking around or is it ok if they drag mud onto your soul? In Brazil there is a slang word called folgado. The direct meaning is “loose” or “lazy” but it really means “freeloader”. There is not exact english equivalent though because it is a mentality even more than a lifestyle.

If you give a person a piece of bread one day, they will be asking for the loaf the next. If you let someone stay for a weekend, they will then try to stay the week (or two!). I once thought my wife was cold and mean spirited towards some of our neighbors. Once I realized she was merely respecting herself and her home, I valued her direction and adopted it as my own.

It is great to be generous but there is a fine line to work with so you are not being trampled on, thus disabling you from helping those who truly need it. Learn to say “no” and to be ok with that.

3) Stop paying attention

A parasite needs a host to survive. When you pay attention to somebody else, you are giving them energy. Whatever you focus on grows and energy vampires will steal your thoughts – decreasing your energy levels. Some people will dump their energy onto you and then drive on to the next pit stop. A friendly ear can be a wonderful thing but there is, again, a line that does not need to be crossed.

Perhaps you’ve found yourself being the source for a person to relay their frustrations at work, a relationship or even successful accomplishments. All of these emotions can drain you in various ways and cause you to measure your own life in ways that are not productive.

Love yourself enough to tune them out, tell them to stop, or tell them you can’t handle it right now.  It’s not mean of you to reject their toxic energy.

4) Breathe in nature

Go into nature, meditate, relax and breathe. Purify the water within yourself, exercise and float easy. Like a butterfly, float gently but move fast. Breathing increases the bloodflow circulation around the body and will help prevent to absorb energy from those around you. Walk with confidence, keep your head up and don’t allow anyone to make you feel inferior. A caterpillar eats everything around it and becomes fat, immobile. It must first become light in order to fly.

5) Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts and emotions

How you feel is 100% your own responsibility. The universe is sending people into your life to test us. The perception we have of ourselves is greater than the perception others have of us. You are not a victim, nobody has power over you.  Consider how your thoughts or expectations may have manifested the situation that is bothering you.  What if the answer lies within your level of patience, irritability, or compassion? Unless we take the time to look, we subconsciously affirm our own victimization to the world around us.

Once you hold yourself accountable and responsible for the way you choose to respond to something, you connect with yourself on a deeper level.  When you are connected to yourself on a deeper level, you don’t get knocked off your center as easily.

Place yourself in situations that boost your own energies. Does this person make you feel good? Do you make that person feel good? You are worthy of a brilliant experience and it is time to realize that fact.  Learning to protect yourself against other people’s energies starts with self-love.  Remember that you are worth of happiness and peace, it’s ok to say no. and you are the author of your own energetic state.

source: thespiritscience.net

Ideal career for globetrotters

Everyone dreams of travelling the world and seeing all the sights that are lauded on the internet. However, because of work constraints, this is often impossible. You’d probably consider yourself lucky if you can get away for a long weekend to the closest hill station with a few friends (and planning can be a harrowing task because everyone is as busy as you are). The travel bug within you is always going to be disappointed at the life you’re living. Unless you have a magical career that allows you to travel!

Yes, those exist. Here’s a list of ideal careers for globetrotters that you can consider while choosing your courses or applying somewhere.

1. Become a flight attendant

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Contrary to popular belief, not all failed models become flight attendants. Many people who have a passion for the hospitality sector as well as travelling choose this option as it lets them see the world, literally at no personal expense. Airlines put up cabin crew in hotels throughout the country and abroad and you even get a slight allowance to shop or eat. However, if you’re interested in some major splurging, that’ll have to happen from your savings, obviously. Conversely, if you have a major passion for flying, you can also choose to become a pilot.

The price to pay:

In exchange for this amazing life, you have to deal with jet lag and possible mood swings that stem from the tirednes

2. Retail Buying / Supply Chain Management

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Retail buying / supply chain management includes ensuring that the merchandise in a set of stores is always available. This means that you will often have to travel back and forth from different stores and manufacturing units across the country and, in time, the world. This career choice is ideal for those who not only like travelling but also enjoy shopping.

The price to pay:

While you’re at the junior level, there’s a high chance that you will be sent to travel to boring locations as opposed to thrilling ones but that will change as you progress higher up the corporate ladder.

3. Join the Peace Corps

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This is an option that is ideal for people who not only care about travelling but also making a difference. As a part of the Peace Corps, you will be able to enjoy a ton of benefits such as housing, student loan deferment and even health benefits. Your scope of work can range from working in education, sectors of health care and even agricultural or economic development. A single commitment to the Peace Corps lasts two years. This is ideal for people who want to take a gap year after high school and are unsure about the courses they want to pursue as this not only lets you travel and explore, it also looks great on your resume at the end of the day! Thus, you won’t have to deal with awkward explanations during your interviews for other jobs. However, if you’re really unsure about what you want and don’t think Peace Corps are an option, you can always check out our list of courses for the undecided.

The price to pay:

As a Peace Corps Volunteer, you won’t really be paid a lot however, on the flip side, you will learn how to survive on a budget

4. Become a Consultant with a leading firm

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This job may not be as creatively fulfilling as the other ones on the list but it certainly has a lot of scope for travel. A consultancy agency usually has branches and clients all over the world and depending on the project that you’re working on, you will be required to travel and even live abroad for certain spans of time to either oversee the project or help out in any capacity.

The price to pay:

In order to really excel in this field, you must be ready for a hard-core corporate environment. If you’re not really comfortable with that, you might have trouble reaching the level you need to be at to be sent abroad regularly.

5. Teach ESL

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ESL stands for English as a Second Language and you’ll be surprised at how many countries get in ESL teachers from all over the world, including India. Like the Peace Corps, this is also a two year commitment where you are required to not only travel to a distant land but also live there.

The price you pay:

You’re going to have to deal with kids. Lots of them!

There are a lot of amazing careers for globetrotters out there for you to choose from. As a special shout out, I’d like to mention travel journalism, travel photographer and travel agent however, these are highly specialized fields where travelling isn’t always an option as all the information you need is available on the internet.

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The Key to Intimacy for Any Relationship

We all want to feel a part of the fabric of life. We want love and intimacy rather than the grinding pain of loneliness. But how to create closeness remains a frustrating puzzle until we deeply realize that being intimate with others is not something we can control; we can’t bend people toward our will.

Being human means being vulnerable. How many times have we pursued contact, only to have our sensitive heart met with the rough shards of shame and criticism? As our overtures for connection are met with rejection, we may keep ourselves hidden to protect our tender heart. Or we try to override our vulnerability through displays of anger, blame, or manipulation.

The desire to stay safe and avoid danger is governed by our amygdala(link is external), which is a part of the "old brain." It scans the environment to dodge threats to our safety and well-being. Modern-day threats are not wild beasts, but rather the indelicate ways we treat each other, which lead to a painful isolation and the shame of feeling badly about ourselves.

Growing up, if we felt repeatedly unsafe to show our true feelings and desires, that vulnerable part of us went into hiding. We may have become avoidantly attached in our relationships—tentatively reaching out, but staying well-defended and not allowing others to get close. Or, we may become anxiously attached(link is external)—scanning for any hint of discord. When trust with ourselves and others has been frayed, then even the slightest misunderstanding or friction may be experienced as a tsunami-like disruption of trust, which may lead to rage or running away.

Misunderstandings and friction arise in even the best of relationships. Uncomfortable or difficult feelings are often the result of unmet longings for love, connection, and understanding. We receive a harsh word or insensitive response; a phone call is promised but not received. Trust gets disrupted. A longing arises...but is not satisfied.

When things don’t go our way, we may feel a sudden vulnerability—from the exposure of a desire that is not fulfilled by the other—that we don’t know how to soothe. Rage and blame are common reactions when we’re unable to soothe the beast within. 

Making Room for Our Vulnerability

Life and relationships go better as we make room for our human vulnerability, not shut it down. When our self-protective instincts try to safeguard us from emotional pain, we attack, accuse, or withdraw. Rather than gracefully dance with the fire(link is external) of our discomforting emotions by engaging with them skillfully, we fan the flames of mutual discontent, which further incinerates the trust and connection we long for. Practices such as meditation and Focusing offer a way to be present with our feelings without being overwhelmed by them, which allows for self-soothing. We discover that feelings come and go as we develop an inner way to hold them and hear what they might be trying to tell us.

Our task is not to transcend our humanity in a misguided effort to ease our pain or polish some favorable self-image. Nor is it to take flight into some transcendent, spiritualized state that leaves our humanity in the dust. Emotional and spiritual maturity rests upon the wisdom and ability to welcome our vulnerable feelings and engage with them wisely. A climate for love and intimacy is created as we mindfully notice, embrace, and befriend what is vulnerably alive inside us—and being willing to take intelligent risks in revealing that to people who we trust and want to feel more connected to. By mutually sharing the tender places inside us, we offer a precious gift to each other.

Periodically pausing during our day can help us notice what we’re actually feeling inside. Rather than clinging to how we’d like to feel or to what we want, we simply allow ourselves to be present with what actually is. It can actually feel good and empowering to allow ourselves to have our experience just as it is--honoring ourselves and loving ourselves just as we are, regardless of others' responses to us.

Here is an exercise adapted from the approach of Eugene Gendlin(link is external), who developed Focusing:(link is external) When you feel a sudden sense of vulnerability (perhaps a fear, sadness, or hurt that arises from some interaction or pops up randomly during your day), take a moment to pause before responding. Notice how you are feeling. What do you notice inside your body right now? Is your stomach tight, chest constricted, breathing constrained?

Simply allow yourself to feel whatever you happen to be feeling—with some sense of spaciousness around it. You may need to find the right distance from the emotions so that you don’t get overwhelmed by them. You may want to visualize yourself putting your arms around the feeling, perhaps gently saying to this part of yourself: “I really hear that you are hurting right now (or sad or afraid). It’s OK to be feeling this way.” If it feels like too much, you may try putting the feeling some distance from you and observing it—or being with it as you’d be with a hurting child.

Being gentle with our vulnerability rather than being ashamed or afraid of it can help it settle. Or just notice how scary it is and be gentle with that. If a particular feeling is especially troublesome, you may want to get some help from a therapist to explore it.

Developing a relationship with the place in us that sometimes feels insecure and vulnerable helps us become stronger and more secure. Paradoxically, we find security and stability not by avoiding or denying our basic human vulnerability—or feeling ashamed of it—but by engaging with it in an honest, gentle, skillful way.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Defend yourself from Negative astral entities

The astral plane is a real place that can easily be experienced by us.  Lucid dreaming, OBEs, and astral projection are all doorways into the astral plane which is an entirely different dimension of the unvierse.  But just like any plane of existence, there are entities that that inhabit the astral plane who want nothing more than to trick you, scare you, manipulate you and mess with you psychologically.

During an extremely vivid lucid dream experience I had, I found myself hovering over my neighbour hood. In front of me appeared a being with red skin wearing a red cloak with black markings on his face.  He smiled at me in a way that almost said “I got you now”, and then a third eye appeared on his forehead.  He opened it at me, and when it opened it I got sucked into it and experienced a moment of disorientation followed by a few seconds of complete darkness.

When I opened my eyes, I found myself hovering over top of my body 3 feet in the air in my bedroom and was terrified.  I frantically tried to wake myself up into waking life and began to panic.  This was my first out-of-body experience, and it happened as a result of being unprotected and messed with by an entity who took pleasure in taking advantage of my ignorance.  If you are in the astral plane and don’t know how to navigate it or protect yourself, you can wind up in the hands of a negative astral entity who wants nothing more than to mess with your mind and scar you psychologically.

They can’t kill you or harm you physically, but if you are not protecting yourself then can leave a permanent impact in your mind and energy field.  Here are some very useful ways to help protect yourself against negative astral entities:

1) Pray

In the New Age community, we are taught self-empowerment and sometimes resist the idea of praying because we don’t want to surrender ourselves.  We feel it makes us powerless or helpless.  But the truth is, you have angels, guides, and a Creator that are on the other side of the physical plane and are eager to lending a hand of comfort to you.  If you feel it is within your integrity, pray to Jesus in particular.  Many non-Christian spiritualists are beginning to realize the undeniable authority that Christ has over negative spirits.

The astral plane is not the only spiritual plane.  There are many other higher glory realms populated by beings of light that want nothing more to reach out to you.  Even Jesus, the King of the glory realms, is willing to help you defend yourself against dark spirits, but no positive entity may impose themselves on you against your will.  Their goodness and fairness prevents them from violating your free will.  When you pray, surrender, and reach out from your own free will, you will always be heard and protected.

2) Control your thoughts

An uncontrolled mind can breed paranoia and fear which literally magnetizes negative astral entities to you.  Whatever repetitive thoughts of fear you have playing through your mind will manifest in one form or another during an experience in the astral planes or out of body.  It will either manifest in the form of a shadow self, a negative astral entity, or a landscape.

Remember that spirits of darkness feed off of the energy of fear.  Practice meditation in your waking life to learn how to develop a new relationship to your mind and experience yourself as something beyond your thought stream.   Learn how to ground yourself in the present moment and silence your mind. Your understanding of your mind in waking life will translate into your experience of other dimensions.  You can then choose not to give in to thoughts of fear and paranoia, and you will no longer be an energetic magnet to beings that feed off of your fear.

3) Raise your vibration in the astral plane

Perfect love casts out fear (and negative astral entities).  Here are some things you can do to raise your vibration while you are in the astral plane:

Have a sense of humour about your experience. Be lighthearted and don’t take things too seriously. You’re only dreaming.Cultivate love within yourself by understanding your experience is all part of a dance of energy.Close your eyes and think back to a time you experienced love. Stay there.In your mind, create a protective shield of white loving light around yourself.Worship God. Sing worship songs.

Think of having a high vibration as a form of preventative medicine against negative astral entities.  It’s much harder to protect yourself against something when it is already in your presence.  It’s kind of like trying to fight off a cold when you already have a sinus infection versus fighting it off with proper sleep and diet prior to it reaching that point in the first place.

Remember that no demon or negative astral entity can torment you if you are protecting yourself.  If you are cultivating love within yourself, praying for protecting from your heart, and create energetic shifts within yourself to raise your vibration, you are going to be vibrationally incompatible with negative entities who want to scare you and manipulate you.

Courtesy: thespiritscience.net

Male and Female Energies

The left brain and the right brain are two separate hemispheres with two totally different functions, yet both are required to work in balance create something of value.  The analytical mind without emotion is nothing but a robot, and the emotional mind without the analytical mind is too unstable.  So what is the difference between male and female energy, and how do we balance these two?

Male energy is more linear, organized, strategic, ambitious, practical, mathematical, and rational.  Female energy is more compassionate, expressive, free-flowing, boundless, creative, and intuitive.  This is not to say that all males necessarily have more masculine energy, or vice versa.  Gender does play a role in what energy is more dominant within us, from the types of sex hormones our bodies produce right down to our biological instincts.

But one of the goals of living spiritually is to be in the driver seat of your thoughts and emotions instead of allowing your biological instincts and natural reactions dictate your behaviours.  Sometimes it’s easy to get allow one type of energy take over and create an unbalance within yourself to the point of negatively impacting your relationships, career, and quality of life.

Here are some was to help balance male and female energy within yourself!

Hangout with the opposite gender

If you only spend time your people of the same gender as you, you will not have a very strong energetic frame of reference to compare yourself to.  Spend time with people that you know exemplify the energy you wish to adopt more of in your life.  Not only will some rub off on to you naturally, they will also act as a mirror for you and reflect back to you things you need to work on.

Set the intention before your hangout that you are going to extract experiences and lessons from that other person that will help ground you and create energetic balance within yourself.  When you go into a hangout consciously, you will be much more attuned to picking up on things about yourself that otherwise would have slipped your attention

                                                                               Listen to people’s feedback on you

If people in your life continue to tell you over and over again that you are too bossy, too rigid, or too unfocused, then take a look inside yourself to see if there is a reason these themes have been repeating in your life.  If there IS an area you are out of balance in, the Universe is designed to show that to you directly through other people if you are unable to discover it by yourself.

Relationships are mirrors that offer a unique way of seeing inside yourself into the areas of your personality and character that can use improvement.  A lot of the times in marriages, you see the classic husband/wife dichotomy develop where the husband gets annoyed with his wife’s nagging and the wife gets sick of her husbands ignorance or lack of care.  Both parties accept this outcome as just something that happens to married couples, but what if it is actually pointing to a very important lack of balance that we have as a race?

Listen to your conscience

Your conscience is the little voice within yourself that comes from your Higher Self which is already perfectly balanced between these two energies. Sometimes, all it takes to find balance in life it to stop trying to hard and rest as the witness of the unfolding of your life.  The more in touch with your intuition you are, the more in touch you will be with the male/female balance.

Rest as the background awareness where your consciousness is no longer filled to the brim with thoughts, stories, and programming, and you are one step closer to being aligned with your Higher Self which is balanced by nature.  The spirit cannot be unbalanced within itself, only the ego-mind can be.

Finding balance within yourself in the world ultimately comes down to how willing you are to listen to your intuition, your relationships, and your conscience, because these things all act as road signs for your soul as it goes through this life.

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10 Easy ways to become more confident

The image is more than sufficient to say everything.

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Fear of Rejection Holds back

Everyone fears rejection at one time or another. Maybe you decided not to ask someone out on a date because you were afraid the object of your affection would decline. Or perhaps you didn’t apply for a coveted job because you were worried you wouldn’t get it. Either way, you may have missed out on a big opportunity. The fear of rejection is often the single greatest obstacle standing between a capable individual and enormous success, and its powerful grip can prevent you from reaching your potential.

Here are 5 ways the fear of rejection hold you back:

1. You Avoid New Opportunities

Fear is meant to keep you safe from danger: You’re hardwired to avoid things that cause you to feel afraid. But while running away from a hungry lion makes sense, refusing to ask for a raise because you fear rejection is not logical. Eliminating any possible risk of rejection from your life will prevent you from exploring new opportunities. There’s no guarantee that an audience will appreciate your presentation or that your friends will support your ideas. But unless you’re willing to put yourself out there and risk a rejection or two, however, you’re not likely to receive many rewards.

2. You Try to Please Everyone

One way to reduce the chances of being rejected is by trying to please everyone. Saying yes to every invite, and agreeing to do things you don’t want to do, may make others like you—at least temporarily. But being a people-pleaser is likely to backfire in the long-run. In reality, it’s impossible to make everyone happy all the time, and, in any event, you’re not responsible for other people’s emotions. People-pleasing can lead to a long list of problems, including burnout and exhaustion, and it can cause you to lose sight of your values.

3. You Maintain a Disingenuous Public Performance

The fear of rejection can lead you to put on a public persona aimed at disguising "the real you." Plastering on a fake smile and trying really hard to fit in with everyone around you may reduce your fear of being seen for who you really are. But while that public mask may help you in certain situations, people will see right through you if you lay it on too thick. Vulnerability is key to living an authentic life, but of course, being vulnerable requires you to risk being hurt. If your fear of rejection prevents you from being genuine, you’ll struggle to form sincere relationships. 

4. You Don’t Speak Up

If, rather then pushing to close a deal, you say, “Call me if you decide it’s something you want,” you can reduce your anxiety. This passive technique will preserve your self-worth—again, at least temporarily—because you won’t have to hear someone reject your offer directly. But declining to express your opinion, refusing to stand up for yourself, or shying away from asking for what you really want equals poor communication. It’s unlikely people are going to hand you what you want in life, unless you ask for it.

5. You Behave Passive-Aggressively

Telling a friend, “My family is so selfish. They’re not even going to help me move!” instead of just calling and asking him or her for help directly may be an attempt to trick the friend into volunteering. But such attempts to avoid rejection are downright manipulative. We know that rejection doesn’t sting so much when you aren’t faced with it head-on. Hinting, complaining, or giving back-handed compliments are just a few of the ways people with a fear of rejection avoid direct confrontation. But ultimately this roundabout way of doing business only causes more friction. 

Short-Term Pleasure, Long-Term Problems

Rejection hurts and dodging it is a way to avoid the short-term pain. But taking steps to avoid all types of rejection only leads to long-term problems. Getting turned down or passed up isn’t the end of the world. Learning to tolerate the distress associated with rejection can actually build your confidence. Once you see that it isn’t as catastrophic as you predict, you’ll learn to take on the attitude of, “nothing ventured, nothing gained" and "it is always better to know the truth and be disappointed for a while than sit back and imagine for a lifetime."

Source: AmyMorinLCSW.com

पानी का हलवा...

एक माँ, लेटी चटाई पे, आराम से सो रही थी...

कोई स्वप्न सरिता उसका मन भिगो रही थी...
तभी उसका बच्चा यूँ ही गुनगुनाते हुए आया...
माँ के पैरों को छूकर हल्के से हिलाया...

माँ उनीदी सी चटाई से बस थोड़ा उठी ही थी...
तभी उस नन्हे ने हलवा खाने की ज़िद कर दी...
माँ ने उसे पुचकारा और फिर गोद मे ले लिया...
फिर पास ही ईंटों से बने चूल्हे का रुख़ किया...

फिर उसने चूल्हे पे एक छोटी सी कढ़ाई रख दी...
फिर आग जला कर कुछ देर उसे ताकती रही...
फिर बोली बेटा जब तक उबल रहा है ये पानी...
क्या सुनोगे तब तक कोई परियों वाली कहानी...

मुन्ने की आँखें अचानक खुशी से थी खिल गयी...
जैसे उसको कोई बिन माँगी मुराद ही मिल गयी...
माँ उबलते हुए पानी मे कङ्छि ही चलाती रही...
परियों का कोई किस्सा मुन्ने को सुनाती रही...

फिर वो बच्चा उन परियों मे ही जैसे खो गया....
सामने बैठे बैठे ही लेटा और फिर वही सो गया...
फिर माँ ने उसे गोद मे ले लिया और मुस्काई...
फिर पता नहीं जाने क्यूँ उनकी आँख भर आई...

जैसा दिख रहा था वहाँ पर सब वैसा नही था...
घर मे इक रोटी की खातिर भी पैसा नही था...
राशन के डिब्बों मे तो बस सन्नाटा पसरा था...
कुछ बनाने के लिए घर मे कहाँ कुछ धरा था...
न जाने कब से घर मे चूल्हा ही नहीं जला था...
चूल्हा भी तो बेचारा माँ के आँसुओं से गला था...

फिर उस बेचारे को वो हलवा कहाँ से खिलाती...
उस जिगर के टुकड़े को रोता भी कैसे देख पाती...
वो मजबूरी उस नन्हे मन को माँ कैसे समझाती...
या फिर फालतू मे ही मुन्ने पर क्यूँ झुंझलाती...
इसलिए हलवे की बात वो कहानी मे टालती रही...
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Indian Air Force prouds the nation again

The Indian Air Force (IAF) has recently finalised a stretch on the under construction Lucknow-Agra Expressway to build the country’s first road runway for fighter jets.

Earlier, on May 21, Indians had woken up to the front page photographs of an IAF Mirage 2000 landing on the Yamuna Expressway near Mathura. It was a matter of immense pride for the nation.

This was the first time an Indian military plane was carrying out a landing on a road though many countries, including Pakistan, had carried out such landings earlier. Road runways are used for emergency landing and become important if airbases are crippled during war. A dedicated section of the road is prepared with thicker-than-normal surface and a solid concrete base.

Landing on a road requires a high level of professionalism and courage.

There have been instances galore where IAF crew has displayed an exemplary degree of intrepidness, expertise and dedication in peace time operations that have largely remained under the radar.

Imagine flying an unpressurised piston-engine transport plane (Dakota, Packet, IL 14) over the mountain ranges in Kashmir that are much higher than the aircraft’s optimum flying ceiling, necessitating unwieldy oxygen cylinders and cumbersome clothing to protect against the cold. Add to that the bumpiness owing to the weather; only visual flying and landing because of either a lack of, or rudimentary, flying and landing aids; no landmarks available in the winters when the entire landscape wears a shroud of white; no question of any safe forced landing in case of an emergency, and one gets an idea just how tough and unforgiving the conditions could be. Even though from the air the majestic landscape stands out as an unforgettable sight, it is no compensation for the strain and rigors that the crew has to undergo. In the country of their origin these planes did not have to cope with flying in such challenging conditions!

This was the actual situation in the 50s/early 60s. In Ladakh, the IAF played a logistical role – transportation of men and material and supply-dropping. The Army had set up forward posts and since there was a dearth of roads, the men and material had to be airlifted. While Srinagar had some limited flying/landing aids, Kargil had none and Leh had a radio-telephone with a range of few miles. At advance landing grounds (ALG) there was no aircraft-to-ground communication.

Briefing at 4am at the Srinagar airport, take off by 4.30 am, two-three sorties a day, frequent long waits for weather clearance - elements seemed to conspire to make life very difficult indeed! I recall my father getting up at 3am every day, drinking a hot cup of tea made by my mother and leave for the airport on his scooter at the height of the Kashmir winter.

Daulat Beg Oldi (DBO) in Ladakh is a historic camp site located close to Chinese-occupied Aksai Chin area near the base of the Karakoram Pass. It has an airstrip of loose gravel texture quality at an altitude of 16,614feet, and is the world's highest airstrip. It had two runways: one each for landing and take-off, because there was not a large enough level ground to suit both purposes. The runways were on sloping ground. Aircrafts had to take off on the runway sloping down which ended in a precipice. Landing was done up the slope to reduce speed. The base was established during the Sino-Indian conflict in 1962, with the first landing done in a packet fitted with a jet engine, creating a world record. It was operated with packets from 1962 to 1966 (my father did many sorties) and had to be closed down when an earthquake caused loosening of the surface soil.

At Kargil, the landing strip sloped down towards the river and the space available to manoeuvre the aircraft was so restricted that one had to plummet down. Foreign pilots flying UN Observer teams had very seldom been subjected to flying in such conditions and they held our pilots in high esteem.

By 1961 the Air Force started using AN 12s. These aircrafts performed extremely well under difficult circumstances. How hazardous is flying in these parts was underlined by the crash of an AN-12 of 25 squadron in February, 1968 on the Dhakka glacier in Himachal Pradesh, killing all crew and 98 soldiers on board. One body was found 45 years later and four more subsequently. I vividly remember my parents (my father was then the squadron commander of 44 squadron of AN -12s) visiting some of the bereaved families of the crew and personally informing and condoling them.

The situation has changed over the years. In DBO, work was undertaken to make the airfield operational again, and on 31 May, 2008, it hosted an An-32. On 20 August, 2013, a C-130J Super Hercules transport aircraft landed there. However, even with the upgrade of facilities, navigational aids and avionics, flying in these areas is still a perilous activity.

Flying in the north-east has its own set of challenges - high mountain ranges, thick tropical jungles, steep valleys and the mighty Brahmaputra. The surface communication network is sketchy and the road network rudimentary. Flying is the only mode of carrying people and supplies. As in Kashmir, flying is strenuous and dangerous because of the temperatures, overall weather conditions, and the unavailability of flying aids. Since the aircraft is operated at the critical limit of its flight envelope with reduced safety margins, the unpredictable weather calls for a high level of flying skills.

Flying is undertaken only between sunrise and noon. By early afternoon, hill shadows and associated poor visibility make sorties impossible. Unmanageable clear air turbulence, low-level wind shear, and low clouds also pose problems.

In a typical drop sortie by an An-32, while flying at a speed of around 250km an hour and at times just 100feet above the hills, the navigator gives the signal to the ejection crew to get ready; the minus-five degrees Celsius air temperature outside making it very difficult for the crew. When the green light comes on, the flight engineer operates the release unit, dropping the load. With the dropping zones (DZ) situated in narrow valleys, the margin for error is very low and the drop has to be precise so that it doesn’t become irretrievable. The problem is accentuated during the pre-monsoon season because of the jhum cultivation and the resultant smog.

Given the topography, take-off and landing in ALGs is a demanding exercise. The runway surfaces are semi-prepared and they are restricted in both length and width. An ALG is like an aircraft carrier deck but without arrester hooks. The approach to an ALG is steep owing to obstructions, and the landing/take-off circuit is unconventional. Landing in the narrow valleys with wing tips brushing the trees and the mountain side gives an eerie feeling.

At the Vijaynagar ALG, which is surrounded by Bangladesh on three sides, the AN-32 lands over reinforced metal sheets. Even a minor miscalculation in the landing speed could result in the aircraft hurtling into the mountains.

Our helicopter pilots are also doing an outstanding job. An IAF Cheetah helicopter set a new world record in November, 2014 by landing at a density altitude of 25,150feet at Saserkangri near Leh. Before that, another helicopter had landed at a record density altitude of 23,240feet to rescue casualties from a mountaineering expedition, in extremely challenging conditions. The weather was very bad. There was just enough place to hover with one ski on the ledge, in gusty conditions, the whirling rotor just a foot away from the solid mountain cliff.

As a helicopter unit’s motto states -"We do the difficult as a routine; the impossible (may) take a bit longer". This applies across the IAF to all our gallant air crew who work in the most trying conditions, without complaint, as a patriotic duty with the only expectation of being treated with respect and dignity by their countrymen.

Dailyo.in

What happens to your brain when you fall in love

These points and others in the same vein were detailed in a recent New York Times opinion piece called “The Brain on Love” by writer-poet Diane Ackerman. We found it an empathic article, one that celebrates human bonding from the first moment a newborn baby imprints on its mother. Bonding takes place via complex brain mechanisms that follow us throughout our lives.

The human brain is an exquisitely sensitive instrument. It registers the slightest nuance of any experience you have ever had. This is no more evident than in love. Imagine someone whispering, “I love you.” In romantic terms these are desirable words – probably the most desirable any of us will ever hear.

The brain responds to ‘I love you” with an orchestration of positive reactions. People who are in love feel less stressed; their blood pressure goes down. When a couple who enjoys a long-term loving marriage hold hands, even their response to physical pain is strengthened.

The sense of oneness that characterizes a strong mother-child relationship morphs over time. It persists among happily married adults and gives such pleasure, as well as a sense of security, that our brains seek “at-one-ness” the way an addict seeks cocaine. Ackerman is quick to point out that love isn’t exactly the same as cocaine use, but her argument involves the same receptors for morphine-like chemicals in the brain as well as an impressive description of hormonal responses and other neurological particulars.

We have reached such a subtle state of brain research that the materialist fallacy gets trampled by thousands of brain scans “proving” that the brain registers love in so many ways. But the notion that the brain’s pleasure centers are the source of loving feelings isn’t necessarily true.

These centers are used to register and experience love. This is different from saying they generate love on their own. Ackerman is careful to point out that the brain’s pain centers are also vulnerable when we fall in love; the pain of being rejected triggers the same brain response as actual physical pain. Here is precisely where the argument for the brain in love – or on love – begins to fall apart.

If you stimulate a mouse’s brain with a pleasurable experience, such as giving it food, the mouse will return again and again to get more stimuli. This is a predictable, mechanical reaction. The same isn’t remotely true for humans. Put a tempting bowl of pasta in front of a person, and it is entirely unpredictable what the response will be. The person may say such things as “I don’t like pasta,” I’m on a diet,” “I don’t like how this dish is made,” or give no reason at all for pushing the plate away.

We are perverse, if viewed as higher mammals. We make choices that have nothing to do with how the brain is programmed. We make decisions that are new, creative, surprising, and utterly unconditioned.

Unfortunately for materialism, machines follow preset instructions; the brain doesn’t. Its reactions are part of a feedback loop that is ultimately controlled by the mind.

Let’s say you are well loved but it’s 1942, you are French, and the wartime resistance has asked you to go underground to fight the Nazis. Your decision will be based on all kinds of factors: conscience, patriotism, risk, danger, politics, history, and more. The fact that you were imprinted by a loving mother enters the equation, but so what? Many a resistance fighter left behind a loving wife and children.

Nothing could be further from a mouse seeking to increase its stimulated pleasure centers, or even balancing pleasure centers with pain centers. To reduce the choices we make in life to brain functions disregards the complexity of human existence, which is mental in nature.

Materialism is insulting to our spirit, and when new findings about the brain emerge, as they do every day, to explain why you do what you do, feel what you feel, and want what you want, please take it all with a huge grain of salt. For a lover of music, it’s not necessary to know the inner workings of a grand piano; far better to study Mozart and the meaning of beauty.

The bottom line is that our brains allow us to register and express feelings like love and benevolence through electrochemical activation of specific brain regions and neurochemicals. But, we are also imbued with the ability to choose how we wish to deal with those feelings. Mindfully making choices transcends the simple stimulus-response automations of our neural networks and truly defines who we are.

Content Courtesy: thespiritscience.net

EXERCISE

“I have been treating patients using cognitive therapies for almost 15 years, and one of the most successful exercises I have ever seen work to help them re-engage their sense of well-being is so simple that each and every time I convince someone to do it, I am still remarkably struck by how effective it is!” said an anonymous psychiatrist.

Before I share this exercise with you, I want you to know that the difficult part is not doing the activity. It is making yourself believe that the activity will have enough benefit that you will put forth the actual effort to do it, and experience the results.

“Often when I give this assignment to patients, they come back for two or three weeks afterward, still not having tried it. That's OK; I'm so certain they will not try it initially, that I generally don’t even assign it until I have been working with them for several weeks and have had sufficient time to coach them into understanding the benefits of shifting their attention and thinking; how it relates to brain functioning; and how it affects their mood, so that they understand the value of what I am asking them to do.” –the psychiatrist.

OK, so what is THE EXCERCISE?

Keep a pad of paper next to your bed and every night before you go to sleep, write down three things you liked about yourself that day. In the morning, read the list before you get out of bed. Do this every day, initially for a week, then a month maybe.

It does not have to be big things, like I am a kind person, or I saved a terrorist attack.
They can be simple, such as I held the door for my co-worker, or I like that I didn’t lose my temper in traffic today, or I like that I am making the effort to try this exercise even if I’m not sure it will work... Just let small things count.

For someone who is depressed, this activity feels like a lot of effort.

Why?

Research shows that people with depression have what is referred to as an attentional bias, for negative self-relevant materials. They also have impaired attentional control, which means that once a negative schema is activated, they tend to ruminate on it and have difficulty disengaging and shifting their attention to something else; consequently, there is sustained negative effect. Essentially, people with depression generally spend a good deal of time thinking about what they don’t like about themselves and they have a hard time stopping.

The more time you spend thinking about something, the more active it becomes in your mental space and the easier it becomes to access. Also, the more you think of something, the more it primes your brain to keep looking for similar things in your environment, creating a selective filter that not only causes you to sift your environment for things that match up with what you are thinking about, it actually causes you to distort ambiguous information in a way that matches up with your dominant thoughts.

Depression is nowhere a disease but even more dangerous than cancer. You never know getting obsessed with things and build a contour of the same which later transforms into anxiety and then depression. Someone with depression who goes to a party might get 10 compliments, but if one person mentions the shirt he is wearing is “interesting,” that person may likely go home and fixate on the ambiguous comment and turn it into a stream of thinking like this: I wonder what was wrong with my shirt, I probably looked silly in it, I bet they all thought I looked like an idiot. What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I ever get anything right? This is so humiliating. The 10 compliments would have been long been forgotten.

So how will this exercise help you?

Research also shows that it requires more attentional effort to disengage from a negative thought process than a neutral one. This simple-to-do but nonetheless effortful exercise essentially helps you build the strength to disengage from any negative thought stream; redirects your attention to positive aspects of yourself; and retrains your selective attention bias.

As you do this, you not only start to become aware of more of your positive attributes, they become more available to you as you interpret events around you. Compliments become something you can hear and accept because they are more congruent with your new view of yourself. You start to interpret events occurring around you in a less self-critical way. If you stick with it, over time this has a compounding effect that elevates your overall sense of self-worth and, subsequently, your well-being.

And not only depression, if you are through a negative phase in your life, or struggling through career choices, or odds are not in favor, or situation is upside down but at least, you are not dead (humor), this exercise is going to bring a lot better side of yourself and you can yourself witness the same.

But remember: There is no benefit to your mental health in just understanding how the exercise works, just as there is no benefit to your physical health in knowing how to use a treadmill. The benefit comes from the doing, in the same way this very EXERCISE.

Courtesy and Help from:

 _{Rudi De Raedt, Lemke Leyman, Evi De Lissnyder. (2010). Mood-congruent attention and memory bias in dysphoria: Exploring the coherence among information-here. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 48 (3), 219–225}

 _{Marie-Anne Vanderhasselt, Simone Kühn, Rudi De Raedt(link is external). (2011). Healthy brooders employ more attentional resources when disengaging from the negative: an event-related fMRI study. Cognitive, Affective, & BehavioralNeuroscience, 11(2), 207-216 www.psychologytoday.com}

'India against porn' or 'India against porn BAN': Dilemma

Some guys have all the luck. Somewhere out there is a humble bureaucrat whose job is to figure out what porn sites to keep and what porn sites to block. According to reports, the government has sent a list of some 857 porn sites that service providers need to block. Someone scoured through goodness knows how many porn sites to come up with that Most Offensive list. It’s a tough job but someone has to do it. The PM didn’t promise us a Swachh Bharat to have that kind of filth lying around just a click away!

The reaction to the porn blocking has been quick and not surprising.

Shaktimaan Thackeray (@Madanchikna) tweeted “Ban on Tobacco – Lol Ban on Eggs – Lol Ban on Beef – Lol Ban on Porn – THIS IS SPARTA!!”

How revealing that some of us think that the next step from banning porn is banning breathing. But while the echoes of the famous Martin Niemöller poem about Nazis – “First they came for the Socialists and I did not speak out – Because I was not a socialist…” - are unmistakable, there’s one important difference.Beckett’s Kitten (@MrAwwtistic) went down that same vein by tweeting “First they banned homosexuality…Then it was beef..And now it is porn…Soon they’ll put a ban on breathing also…#PornBan.”

Don’t count on any porn-watching festival as an act of conscientious resistance, the way someone might organize a beef-eating festival. Don’t count on anyone coming out the way some gays and lesbians did after the 377 ruling to prove they are not a "minuscule minority". Amul will have a tongue-in-cheek hoarding but there will not be a charming clothing company ad featuring the wholesome porn-watching couple waiting for the parents to arrive.

We are opposing the porn ban for perfectly valid, well-argued rational reasons:

Because this is the creeping assault on freedom of expression;
Because then how are we different from the Taliban and Islamic State (ISIS)?
Because we think it’s futile to block anything in an age of VPNs;
Because HIV prevention and sex education sites will fall prey to the blocking zeal;
Because we wrote the Kamasutra;
Because even Chief Justice Dattu says someone can say “'Look, I am an adult and how can you stop me from watching it within the four walls of my room?”
Because as Ram Gopal Verma reminds us to ban porn saying it will be seen by who shouldn’t see it is like saying to stop traffic because there will be accidents;
Because all porn-watchers should not pay the price for some despicable human beings who drank and watched porn before going out and gang-raping someone.

But we are not opposing the porn ban because WE watch porn OURSELVES.

A disheveled Vikram Seth will not be on the cover of India Today holding a sign saying “Not a criminal”.

But India’s porn watching numbers didn’t swell to such proportions without you and me. A 2014 study in Quartz said it outright, "Indians are among the most prolific consumers of internet pornography in the world, and increasing numbers of men – and women- are streaming it on their mobile phones." According to data from Pornhub, where the world average for pages viewed per visit is 7.6, India scores a respectable 7.2. gGiven our buffering speeds ,that's pretty darn impressive. Mizoram, which either has great internet connectivity or very little else to do, leads the pack with 8.47 while Delhi comes up close behind at 8.02.

The most popular search items include “Indian”, “Indian wife” and “Indian bhabhi”. The biggest dip in traffic happens around Diwali but there’s usually a spike around Independence Day and Republic Day. This is a fascinating portrait of the aam aadmi Indian that we all know but never own up to. Porn is always someone else’s habit.

Simple arithmetic demands that these numbers didn’t happen only because of those MLAs caught watching porn on their mobile phones in the Karnataka Assembly. But I wonder how many of us called MTNL or BSNL and complained “My favourite Pornhub site featuring amateur bhabhi porn is now showing the message ‘The site has been blocked per instructions of Competent Authority’.” Chances are we ran Anti-virus checks over and over again thinking we had downloaded something we shouldn't have during our last porn-watching episode.

Porn is both the great Indian time-pass and the great Indian hypocrisy.

All the internet has done is make it accessible in a way it never was . When you had to rely on the neighbourhood magazine-wallah’s secret stash of xeroxed Penthouse Letters and Hustlers if you wanted anything more exciting than a dog-eared Harold Robbins. In those repressed socialist days, I remember bringing home a forbidden magazine tucked inside my shirt hoping it would not fall out. But in good old jugaad spirit, our neighbourhood pornwallah allowed you to return your porn magazine and get some money back once you were , ahem, done with it – a porn lending library of sorts but without a library card.

But that was only reserved for the good quality porn. As he would say with wink and a nod “Some foreign picture magazines just arrived. Full colour.” That was opposed to those badly reproduced barely discernible pixiellated pictures which were added to homegrown porn booklets and wrapped in yellow transparent wrapping paper for extra luridness. They were almost without exception cookie-cutter coming-of-age stories about a young man involving first a precocious maid, then the buxom neighourhood bhabhi, followed by a schoolfriend’s lonely mother and eventually a winsome girlfriend. For that local flavour, the Bengali ones sometimes used mustard oil as lubricant.

The problem was in a country with scant regard for private space, this porn had to be hidden around the house away from prying parents, inquisitive siblings, or the maid who might get too enthusiastic about dusting. It had to be disposed off periodically because it could not be sold to the neighbourhood raddiwalla along with the month’s newspapers. As for porn videos, those scratchy grainy pirated VHS tapes came with their own dangers. I remember as schoolboys pooling together our money to watch what we excitedly called a “blue film” on one rare day when the parents were not at home. Unfortunately there was a power cut right then, the VCR’s eject button did not work and we were stranded with contraband in the VCR and the parents expected home at any time.

Porn watching was such a stressful endeavour, it was too difficult for it to become a bonafide addiction. It was simply too much hard work. The internet certainly made that easier. And the internet parlours took away the “shame” from watching porn and made it a sort of communal boys-will-be-boys activity across India. If porn suddenly disappeared from our laptops and smartphones, logic demands productivity could go up. Except we'd probably spend much of those extra hours figuring out VPNs to get our fix. But we could also be throwing the baby out with the dirty bathwater since porn, not Google, is the real engine that has powered Internet innovation.

As Business Insider points out it is the needs of porn consumers that pioneered streaming video, bandwidth growth, tracking devices, online credit card transactions, Snapchat technology and much of what we now call e-commerce. “Think of the military as the inventor and creator of a product and porn as the entrepreneur who brings the product to the masses,” writes Ross Benes in the article.

Now if the masses are to be deprived of their opium, will they rise in revolt and hold candlelight vigils at Jantar Mantar with some fasting Gandhian of porn? Unlikely. Will the Opposition stall parliament to stand up for porn watching rights? Certainly not. Even Sunny Leone will not quit Bollywood in protest.

The Niemöller poem ends with the famous line:

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

In the current version of the story, when they came for porn, there were actually millions left to speak up. But then who among us wants to admit that when they came for porn, this time they came for me?

Content Courtesy: www.firstpost.com

Perks You Enjoy If You’re Open About Your Feelings

What matters most is how well you walk through the fire.

In today’s era, such fire is the essence of act where you’re able to speak your mind. The entire deed of speaking your heart out may sound troublesome in the initial stage, but is surely going to take you a long way of no odious prejudices being held against you.

Here are 11 solaces of people who are extremely honest with their feelings enjoy:

1. You’ll never have to remember what lies you said, because ta-da; there weren’t any

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You’re the man.

2. At one point people will start appreciating your honesty

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Sooner or later, yes!

3. Everyone will come to you for an honest opinion

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Haha, totally. (Well, that could be a pain in the ass, but anyway; you’re doing a good job)

4. You might end up arguing with your friends; In the end, you’ll sort everything out

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Those who matter won’t mind, those who mind won’t matter.

5. You’ll probably have only a few friends, but they will be your most prized possessions

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Of course, they’ll cherish your traits.

6. People might construe you wrongly as a rude person, but they’ll soon realize that you aren’t

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In fact, they’ll look forward to you.

7. Your clique of honest people; No lies and straight from the heart talks

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Because sometimes, you’ve gotta run away from the drama.

8. You get rid of all the fictitious people around you, way too quickly

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Without any efforts. Now that’s something.

9. This attitude builds your confidence

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Indubitably and it will never cease.

10. Eventually, people will start to have a lot of faith in you

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Ahuh.

11. You’ll come across as genuinely lovable someone, and that’s worth the call

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Everyone can’t carry the weigh of being an out-rightly open person; it takes a heart of gold to come clean at all times, even when you are wrong. The world be a better place to live in if it had more people who’d come clean about who they really are.

Source: http://www.storypick.com